#AuthorToolboxBlogHop: Success is not a destination

Hello, everyone!

I usually talk about the technical aspects of writing for #AuthorToolboxBlogHop, but recent events encouraged me to write more about the emotional aspects of being a writer. I think for many of us, it’s tempting to look at success or happiness as a destination. “I’ll be happen when…” “I’ll be successful when…”

We’re so concerned with the destination we forget to enjoy the smaller victories in the journey. But it’s so important to appreciate and celebrate every victory, no matter how small, because as long as you look at success as a destination, there will always be something else to look forward to – there is no end.

I got into Pitch Wars this year. At first, the stress was about whether or not my manuscript would be finished in time. Then, it became about whether I’d get any requests, then about whether I would get chosen by a mentor. Now that I’m in, it’s about whether my entry will get any requests from agents (!!!). It’s possible I get none. It happens to a few people every year.

But then I thought to myself, “Okay, let’s say I get a couple of requests – would that put an end to the stress? No. Because then it’ll be about getting an offer of representation. Will that be the end? Nope. Then we’ll need an editor who likes it enough to acquire it. FINALLY THAT’S THE END OF ALL THE WORRIES – except wait, what if readers hate it? Maybe they’ll love it – ah, but what about the next book? What if my agent/editor/readers hate it?”

See my point? There will always be something to worry about. Always some reason to put off celebrating.Β  I have to remind myself that, whether or not I get any requests at the agent round, getting into Pitch Wars itself was a huge victory for me.Β Of course, it’s important to have a long term goal, but the short term ones are just as important.

Finished that first draft? YAY! CELEBRATE!

Revised and sent it to a CP? WOOHOO!Β 

Emailed your first query? THAT’S A HUGE STEP! It takes courage to put your work out there!

Got a request? YAY!

Got a rejection? Every rejection is one step closer to success (even if it’s not with the same manuscript).

When you accomplish something, no matter how small, take some time to celebrate and appreciate all you’ve done. Be proud of yourself. Don’t immediately worry about the next step. You need those small victories to keep pushing you forward.

In fact, why don’t you share a recent victory below? I’d love to hear it!

P.S Today, the bidding for the Virgin Islands Publishing Fundraising auction opened. I donated a query and full MS critique. If you’d like to bid on it (or any of the other items), you can click here.

And remember – celebrate the small victories!

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22 thoughts on “#AuthorToolboxBlogHop: Success is not a destination

  1. An encouraging post! Yes, every little step counts and adds to the finish line. And when we do appreciate the little milestones, we do not lose our momentum and touch with the passion that started us on this journey. Good to see you remain steady. And since you have already accomplished all these goals in your Pitch War project, you must remember to keep your chin up. How many gets that far, eh?

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  2. Celebrating the small things is very important in this long journey of being a writer. And yes: every rejection brings you closer to success. Last year around this time a short story of mine was rejected, so I rewrote it and submitted it to another publication, it got rejected again, I rewrote it and then… It’s getting published in an anthology this November!

    All the best for your MS with the request round πŸ™‚

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    1. Wow, congratulations! And thank you so much πŸ™‚

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  3. Congratulations on getting into Pitch Wars πŸ™‚
    Some great advice here. I’ve been stalled on my first draft of Dragonspire for a few months now, but I have a new project to look forward to for NaNoWriMo. I’ll celebrate my planning successes: I finally made progress on the plot πŸ˜€

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  4. Thanks for an inspiring post! This is something I totally believe in myself. Being a writer is about not just one journey with one destination – but many journeys. And it’s in the journeying that we grow and learn and create.

    I’m working on two books right now (editing one, finishing one) but I’m most excited about launching a new business soon for writers. It’s an online course for first time authors seeking to create platform before they even get published. Folks can sign up for the free pre-launch weekly guides and put the resources to the test – and are giving me great feedback on them. So it’s a win-win! https://www.yourawesomeauthorlife.com/ Wishing you success too!

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    1. That sounds great! Good luck with that! And thank you πŸ™‚

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  5. True words of wisdom. We have to celebrate all the steps no matter how small. And congrats on getting into Pitch Wars.

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  6. I’m just happy when I reread my work and I like it. For the record, I’m my worst critic. πŸ™‚

    Anna from elements of emaginette

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  7. Yes, it’s so important to celebrate all the small victories. Great post, and I’m rooting for you!

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  8. Great post! Celebrating victories along the way is so important. Great insights, and thank you for sharing! And congrats on getting in Pitch Wars!

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    1. You’re welcome! And thank you πŸ™‚

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  9. Wow — such wise and hard-to-follow guidance! I am going to do my best to keep this perspective; I’ve started keeping email copies of notes of acceptance to on-line publications and blurts from friends that make me smile. Plus, it’s fun to celebrate this incredibly hard road!

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  10. The journey never ends for writers. There’s always another step in the ladder. The trick is to always work to become better. A better writer, a better marketer, a better person.

    I was in Pitch Madness early this year, and I was one of the ones that got zero requests. It was so disheartening. Six months later and my full has been requested seven times. Four out of seven have rejected, but still… the results of those contests really don’t mean much. Just be happy your mentor is helping you make the book better!

    http://micascottikole.com/2017/10/17/wdc17-3-mechanics-plot-twists-authortoolbox/

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  11. I think you’re right.
    Many times I find myself talking about “getting there”, but the reality is many authors that, from my perspective, seem to be “there”, still talk about how far they still have to go.

    I think it’s easy to focus on one of the goals, to earn enough money via writing to make that one’s only job, and lose sight of the original goal, to write and learn and continue to grow, simply because we love it.

    Right now I’m celebrating the fact that for the first time in a long time, I feel like I have a strong story to work on, and I’m looking forward to seeing what I’ve learned from my fellow bloggers.

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